End Homelessness

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Rachel was the first in our family to take home the golden-tailed "McElroy Donkey Champ" trophy this Christmas! I love traditions, but many of the ones we enjoyed while our kids were growing up were celebrated throughout December. Now that our time together is limited, we needed a new tradition. Spoons is a lively (and potentially dangerous) card game where each loss gives you a letter to spell out the word donkey. Rachel will "proudly" display her success until next Christmas when round two determines a new champ.

One of our long-standing traditions is "Grandparents' Soup Night" which takes place a day or two after Christmas. Our parents are also good friends which makes for a delightful evening with the family. This year, I got a big new soup pot for the event. A week after Christmas it was still sitting on my stovetop-- clean, but homeless.

Most of us probably had a thing or two come into our homes over the holidays that we don't have room for, or an assigned home for. In today's Timely Tips I address how to end homelessness (at least for our stuff). After a little purging and reorganizing, my new pot found a home under the stove!

TIMELY TIPS - End Homelessness
  1. Plan ahead. Before buying something new, think about and decide where you will store it. If you need to wait to make the purchase, and first check things out at home, so be it!
  2. Purge. Use the "in with the new and out with the old" motto. A lot of clutter is caused by hanging on to the old one, the broken one, the one there's nothing wrong with, but now you have two. If it's worth passing on, share the old with someone who doesn't have one. If you're not going to use it, and no one else wants it, just let it go.
  3. Containerize. Walk through your house and look for homeless items. Are there keys, coupons, stacks of magazines, etc.? Find practical and/or decorative ways of containerizing things like a key hook next to the door, a file or envelope in the car for your coupons, a basket or magazine rack placed next to your favorite chair. Place things close to where they'll be used whenever possible. 
  4. Toss. Take another walk through the house with a garbage bag and locate homeless items that simply haven't made it to the trash or recycle.
  5. Maintain. Don't put it down-- put it away! Maybe it's not a homeless issue after all. If that's the case, commit to a ten-minute tidy at the end of each day, so things will find their way home. 

Wise Words

 Wise words from Peter Walsh on how to "lighten up" this new year.

Peter Walsh on GMA

 

Christmas Greetings

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Holiday greetings! My wish for you this season is that you'll have treasured moments of peace and joy amidst the hustle and bustle of Christmas. I know that for some this is especially challenging due to significant loss. Many of those I work with have experienced the loss of health, loved ones, or relationships. These losses make it difficult to stay organized, not to mention joyful or peaceful. 
    To me, Christmas represents an extraordinary loss that resulted in an amazing gain. God loves us so much He gave His only Son, Jesus, who "gives light to those who sit in darkness and death's shadow, and to guide us to the path of peace." (Luke 1:79) May peace and joy be yours to the fullest through Him!

TIMELY TIPS - Holiday Stress-Reducers

  1. Steal away to a quiet place with cup of hot chocolate, a comfy chair, and your Christmas cards and letters
  2. Say "no" (in a nice way)
  3. Get your "to dos" out of your head and onto your calendar
  4. Prioritize your projects and give yourself permission to focus on the top five and let the rest go, if needed
  5. Delegate
  6. Take a nap or a walk
  7. Schedule coffee with a friend
  8. Play Christmas music (www.pandora.com)
  9. Request non-cluttering gifts i.e. tickets to an event, a gift certificate for an organizing session, or a Freedom Filer set
  10. Set up a Christmas Savings account at your bank

 

WISE WORDS

Christmas gift suggestions: 

To your enemy, forgiveness. 
To an opponent, tolerance. To a friend, your heart. 
To a customer, service. 
To all, charity. 
To every child, a good example. 
To yourself, respect. 

-- Oren Arnold

Is a lot to be thankful for, better than a little?

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After a visit in October with "William Brewster" and others who play the part of the Pilgrims of 1620, I was struck with the thought of how little they had to be thankful for. Coming to this new land they left their homes and most of their belongings. Their welcome here was a harsh winter that claimed the lives of almost half their loved ones. Many of those who survived were sick and starving.

But, in the autumn of 1621 they gave thanks for the skills they learned from the Native People, a successful harvest, a roof over their heads, and the freedom to worship as they desired. They didn't have it made, they simply had enough. For that, they gave thanks.   

If you've heard me speak, or taken my class, you know the importance I place on recognizing what's most valuable to you. I believe identifying those relationships and things help center us and make us aware of what we have to be thankful for and beyond that, what we can let go of. It's not the quantity of things that creates a spirit of thankfulness, it's the recognition of what enriches and brings meaning to our lives. 

As we enter this Thanksgiving season, take a moment to read and follow this issue's Timely Tip.

TIMELY TIP - Giving Thanks & Letting Go
Many struggle with letting go of things that crowd their homes and schedules. One step toward letting go is looking realistically at the value those things hold, or don't hold compared to the things and people that are truly important to you. Click below for a little Thanksgiving exercise designed to aid you in this process. You may even want to incorporate it into your Thanksgiving celebration. 
Click here: Giving Thanks and Letting Go

 

WISE WORDS

Saw in a museum in Massachusetts 

Saw in a museum in Massachusetts 

Out of control?

Chase and the Seals - Santa Barbara

Chase and the Seals - Santa Barbara

Have you ever felt like you're out on the open seas being tossed in the waves, vulnerable to oncoming ships and sea life? I have. In fact, that's exactly how I felt when we took our kayak out of the Santa Barbara harbor to see the seals perched out on a buoy. The farther out we went, the larger the waves, the more water we took on, and the faster the huge ships came at us. Once we had circled the seal-laden buoy, I was ready to head for the safety of the harbor.

Dictionary.com says that "control" means to exercise restraint or direction over; dominate; command. There's a lot in life that we can't control; the threat of a terrorist attack, a suffering economy, traffic, and the choices of those around us. Scott and I couldn't control the waves, the ships, or the choice of a seal to use our kayak as a play toy. What we could control was the direction and intensity with which we paddled.

Life can often feel out of control. Today's Timely Tips are designed to help you paddle toward calmer seas in today's busy times.

Here's a pic of the seals and our son, Chase, on a calmer day. We didn't dare take our camera/phone out of the Ziplock on our stormy voyage! 

TIMELY TIPS - Control What You Can
  1. Write down your top five life values and use them to determine what you keep and let go of in your schedule, home, and office.

  2. Schedule time on your calendar with your spouse/kids/friends. Just because it's important, doesn't mean it will happen automatically.

  3. List and commit to your "No-Matter-Whats," the few things you decide that are important enough to do daily/weekly even when life throws you a wrench. 

  4. Set boundaries for tech tools i.e. turn your phone on silent when working on a project, schedule specific times and time limits to check email, Facebook, surf the net, etc.

  5. Know where your car keys are all the time - assign a specific pocket in your purse or briefcase. If shared, use a hook by the garage door or a spot in a drawer where everyone places them when not in use (a small act with big returns when it comes to reducing stress and wasted time).

  6. Plan your meals ahead a week at a time.

  7. Prepare for the next day's activities the night before, choosing wardrobe, preparing items for errands, gathering paperwork, packing kids' homework in backpacks, etc.

  8. Schedule a 10-minute buffer around appointments.

  9. Set up a system for incoming mail and long-term filing to avoid paper piles.

  10. Attend the Organizing Your Paper, Space, and Life class! : )

 

Are you prepared?

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Outside her home, she looked up the street and saw fire and smoke billowing down the Montecito hills. Running inside she gathered her family and pets. Her teenage daughter grabbed the box they had prepared with family photos and vital documents for such a time as this. Back outside they knocked on doors and alerted as many neighbors as possible before heading down to safety. This was the scene at my sister-in-law's home almost two years ago when the "Tea Fire" swept through the hills near Santa Barbara. The next day they got word that their house and belongings were destroyed. We visited them in their rebuilt home Labor Day weekend. It's beautiful and the precious photos, spared from the flames, are prominently displayed on a shelf in the living room.

While I'm not a promoter of doom and gloom, I see value in preparing for emergencies and potential disasters. September is National Preparedness Month. To learn how you and your family can be prepared, see this issue's Timely Tips and visit the links to some helpful websites.

Smiles amidst the rubble.

Smiles amidst the rubble.

TIMELY TIPS - BE PREPARED!

1. Fire Emergency Preparedness

  • Install dual sensor smoke alarms
  • Create and practice an escape plan
  • Purchase a fire extinguisher
  • For more info visit the Fire Safety Website

2. Basic Emergency Supply Kit

  • Water - 1 gal/person/day (3-day supply)
  • Food - 3-day supply of non-perishable food; can opener
  • Battery-powered or hand crank radio
  • Flashlight and extra batteries
  • First aid kit and manual
  • For more info visit the FEMA Website

3. Family Emergency Plan

  • Download and complete a Family Emergency Plan from the
  • FEMA Website
  • Record an emergency contact number in each family member's cell phone and label it "ICE" (In Case of Emergency)
  • Identify a local and out-of-town contact for family members to check in with in case of disaster
  • Identify a family meeting place
  • Inquire about emergency plans at work, daycare, and school
  • Try texting to connect with family members if phone networks are disrupted

 

The Perfect Model

This summer I brought my guitar to Music Week at Bluff View Preschool where my daughter, Candice, teaches. It's amazing how far basic skills go when your audience is four years old and under! It was fun playing for the kids and watching Candice in action. When I think about how her class is set up and managed, I'm struck with the thought that it is the perfect model for a smooth-running home or business.  

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By the way, as of August 1st, Candice is a bride-to-be and we are excited to welcome Micah Haury into the family!

TIMELY TIPS - Preschool - the Perfect Organizing Model
Which of these classroom tips might you incorporate into your home, office, or life?

  1. There's a place for everything, and everything's in its place.
  2. Rooms are divided into sections so that you have like things together and everything you need to complete specific tasks.
  3. Containers are stacked neatly on shelves and clearly labeled so you know where everything is.
  4. Cleanup happens throughout the day (following each project) so that there is no major mess to deal with at day's end.
  5. Cleanup is a team effort with everyone participating in age and skill appropriate tasks.
  6. Expectations are clearly defined and there is consistency and follow through with consequences.
  7. Routines are established with lots of practice and affirmation so that each one can eventually accomplish what's expected without being asked or reminded.
  8. There are specific times assigned and boundaries set for each activity - work, play, reading, art, etc. 
  9. Some projects take more than a day, but they're always completed.
  10. Nap-time's a daily occurrence.

 

Seize the Opportunity

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"Make the most of every opportunity..."(Ephesians 5:16) is my theme for 2010. A couple weeks ago I blew it. Not in a life-changing way, but still an opportunity lost, or so I thought. When I approached the pineapple at Costco there was a man carefully choosing one. He looked like he knew what he was doing and had perhaps even grown up on the Islands. I love pineapple, but don't know the first thing about choosing the right one. I grabbed one and went on with my shopping, kicking myself for not being bold enough to ask his advice. The other day I was back at Costco thinking of my lost opportunity as I approached the fruit. Guess who was there-- yep, the pineapple man! I wasn't going to miss the same opportunity twice. He was very kind and took the time to help me find two perfect pineapples!  Making the most of every opportunity sometimes means tapping into someone else's expertise to improve our own quality of life. Perhaps you've considered getting organizing help, but haven't followed through on that thought. Today's "Timely Tips" will help clarify if now is the right time, and the coupon below is the opportunity you don't want to miss!

TIMELY TIPS

You know it's time to ask for organizing help if...

  1. Panic and embarrassment result in a cleaning frenzy whenever unexpected company arrives
  2. You spend valuable time searching for your keys, wallet, purse, etc.
  3. Cardboard boxes and piles of stuff keep your car parked outside the garage
  4. You spend money replacing things you know you have, but can't find
  5. Your mail and other papers pile up until bagged and stuck in a closet when company comes
  6. Your dining table is a dumping ground instead of a family meal center
  7. Years of files are bursting out of your file drawers and there's no place for current papers
  8. You're feeling guilty for not setting a good example of organization for your children
  9. Walking into your bedroom, office, kitchen, or living room creates a feeling of stress
  10. You're too embarrassed to ask for help

 

Two Life-changing Routines

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To celebrate 32 years of wedded bliss I talked Scott into buying a kayak. Being the wonderful husband that he is, he grumbled a bit and then said yes. See those white legs in the picture? After our maiden voyage on beautiful Hume Lake, they were red and blistered. It was chilly that day and we waited just a tad too long to apply the sunscreen! We couldn't see the gradual change even though it was taking place right under our noses. This reminded me of what happens in many homes. A few things get left out as you think to yourself, "I'll just put this here for now." Gradually you let a few more things pile up until the day unexpected company arrives at the door, and you look around and panic! Prevention is always the best medicine and this issue's Timely Tips offers the remedy for the red face of embarrassment just like the sunscreen could have done for our legs. 

TIMELY TIPS - Two Life-changing Routines

  1. If it takes less than two minutes, do it now! When put off, all those little tasks like putting your dishes in the dishwasher, hanging up your clothes, putting the groceries away, etc., add up to time consuming messes. You'll be surprised at what you can prevent in two minutes or less!
  2. Ten-minute Tidy - During my Clovis Adult class I was describing the routine of having family members put their own things away before dinnertime and bedtime. My niece, who was taking the class piped up and said, "We call that the Ten-minute Tidy!" I like that name, but whatever you call it, it's part of the answer to waking up to a clean house and never having to open the door red-faced again!

 

Keep or Toss?

Candice's 27th birthday

Candice's 27th birthday

I can't believe my firstborn has that many candles on her cake! I miss the fun we had when our kids were little, but love spending time with my adult children. It's so important to live purposeful lives in the present. Are your rooms and closets filled with belongings from the past, or "just in case" items for the future? When our past or future clutters the present, we can't fully embrace the opportunities of today. This issue's "Timely Tips" offers some helpful questions to ask yourself as you strive to create a home for the life you desire to live today.

TIMELY TIPS - Top Ten "Keep or Toss" Questions 

  1. Have I used this item in the past year?
  2. Do I have a definite use for this in the foreseeable future?
  3. If it's broken, is it worth fixing?
  4. Does this item serve a worthwhile purpose in my life?
  5. Is it more important for me to keep this item than to have to space it occupies?
  6. Do I need to keep it for legal or tax purposes?
  7. Do I love it?
  8. If it's sentimental, can I take a picture of it, or keep a portion of it to remember it by?
  9. Would it be difficult or expensive to replace?
  10. Do I have more than I use or need?

 

Get Ready!

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Fall is my absolute favorite time of the year! I love the colors, cooler weather, and the anticipation of the holidays. It's a season of preparation. 

September is National Preparedness Month. The National Association of Professional Organizers (NAPO) is part of a coalition organized by the US Dept. of Homeland Security to inform and guide people through the steps of preparing for an emergency. Being prepared is a sure-fire way to reduce stress when you encounter the unexpected. (See A Timely Tip) 

It's also important to prepare for the expected events like Thanksgiving and Christmas! If you'd like to reduce the holiday madness and increase your holiday joy, join my "Organizing Your Holidays" class this October.

A Timely Tip - Get Ready!

Fire Emergency Preparedness

  • Install dual sensor smoke alarms
  • Create and practice an escape plan
  • Purchase a fire extinguisher

Basic Emergency Supply Kit

  • Water - 1 gal/person/day (3-day supply)
  • Food - non-perishable food (3-day supply); can opener if needed 
  • Battery-powered or hand crank radio
  • Flashlight and extra batteries
  • First aid kit and manual

Family Emergency Plan

  • Complete a Family Emergency Plan Form (seewww.ready.gov
  • Identify a local and an out-of town contact
  • Record "ICE" (In Case of Emergency) contact number in family cell phones
  • Identify a family meeting place
  • Inquire about emergency plans at work, daycare and school

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